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Monday, July 29, 2019
Monday, July 22, 2019
Thought of the week - Waiting
Greetings all!
Here is an inspiring thought for the upcoming week
(from http://www.deeshan.com).
Hope you have a great week! Drop me a line!
Monday, July 15, 2019
Monday, July 8, 2019
The Invitation [Poem of the Week]
It doesn’t
interest me
what you do for a living.
I want to know
what you ache for
and if you dare to dream
of meeting your heart’s longing.
I want to know
what you ache for
and if you dare to dream
of meeting your heart’s longing.
It doesn’t
interest me
how old you are.
I want to know
if you will risk
looking like a fool
for love
for your dream
how old you are.
I want to know
if you will risk
looking like a fool
for love
for your dream
for the
adventure of being alive.
It doesn’t
interest me
what planets are
squaring your moon...
I want to know
if you have touched
the centre of your own sorrow
if you have been opened
by life’s betrayals
or have become shrivelled and closed
from fear of further pain.
what planets are
squaring your moon...
I want to know
if you have touched
the centre of your own sorrow
if you have been opened
by life’s betrayals
or have become shrivelled and closed
from fear of further pain.
I want to
know
if you can sit with pain
mine or your own
without moving to hide it
or fade it
or fix it.
if you can sit with pain
mine or your own
without moving to hide it
or fade it
or fix it.
I want to
know
if you can be with joy
mine or your own
if you can dance with wildness
and let the ecstasy fill you
to the tips of your fingers and toes
without cautioning us
to be careful
to be realistic
to remember the limitations
of being human.
if you can be with joy
mine or your own
if you can dance with wildness
and let the ecstasy fill you
to the tips of your fingers and toes
without cautioning us
to be careful
to be realistic
to remember the limitations
of being human.
It doesn’t
interest me
if the story you are telling me
is true.
I want to know if you can
disappoint another
to be true to yourself.
If you can bear
the accusation of betrayal
and not betray your own soul.
If you can be faithless
and therefore trustworthy.
if the story you are telling me
is true.
I want to know if you can
disappoint another
to be true to yourself.
If you can bear
the accusation of betrayal
and not betray your own soul.
If you can be faithless
and therefore trustworthy.
I want to
know if you can see Beauty
even when it is not pretty
every day.
And if you can source your own life
from its presence.
even when it is not pretty
every day.
And if you can source your own life
from its presence.
I want to
know
if you can live with failure
yours and mine
and still stand at the edge of the lake
and shout to the silver of the full moon,
“Yes.”
if you can live with failure
yours and mine
and still stand at the edge of the lake
and shout to the silver of the full moon,
“Yes.”
It doesn’t
interest me
to know where you live
or how much money you have.
I want to know if you can get up
after the night of grief and despair
weary and bruised to the bone
and do what needs to be done
to feed the children.
to know where you live
or how much money you have.
I want to know if you can get up
after the night of grief and despair
weary and bruised to the bone
and do what needs to be done
to feed the children.
It doesn’t
interest me
who you know
or how you came to be here.
I want to know if you will stand
in the centre of the fire
with me
and not shrink back.
who you know
or how you came to be here.
I want to know if you will stand
in the centre of the fire
with me
and not shrink back.
It doesn’t
interest me
where or what or with whom
you have studied.
I want to know
what sustains you
from the inside
when all else falls away.
where or what or with whom
you have studied.
I want to know
what sustains you
from the inside
when all else falls away.
I want to
know
if you can be alone
with yourself
and if you truly like
the company you keep
in the empty moments.
if you can be alone
with yourself
and if you truly like
the company you keep
in the empty moments.
By Oriah
Mountain Dreamer
(Source: http://www.oriahmountaindreamer.com/)
Monday, July 1, 2019
Unfinished Business [The Zeigarnik Effect]
Greetings
all!
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Let me pose 2 seemingly unrelated questions:
What do these questions have in common, you might ask, besides the procrastination being on occasion the direct effect of binge-watching TV?!
- Do you ever procrastinate?
- Do cliffhanger endings in TV shows make you impatient to see the next episode?
What do these questions have in common, you might ask, besides the procrastination being on occasion the direct effect of binge-watching TV?!
Enter
the Zeigarnik Effect! A psychologist Bluma Zeigarnik developed a theory in the
1920s that we tend to remember incomplete tasks better than completed ones. She
observed that waiters in a restaurant were able to keep track of orders and
unpaid bills but could not recall the information after the bills were paid. She
then did several lab experiments to support her hypothesis. Later studies were mixed in terms of replicating this effect.
For
me, the Zeigarnik Effect does seem to hold true. Incomplete tasks loom
much larger in my mind than the ones I have crossed off my list. Maybe the
brain encodes unfinished business differently. Maybe the mind literally just
gets “stuck.”
How
do we get un-stuck? How do we learn to procrastinate less? This is what works
for me:
1) Make a list and break a large task into smaller steps - then it will not seem that intimidating.
1) Make a list and break a large task into smaller steps - then it will not seem that intimidating.
2) Just start. Do one thing
and not only you will be a bit closer to completion, you might actually find
your flow!
3) Take breaks. Some studies
suggest that interrupting your work will make you mentally return to the unfinished
task.
Sources:
- https://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/procrastinating-how-to-stop-zeigarnik-effect-phenomenon-at-work-now-a8247076.html
- https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Zeigarnik_effect
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