Showing posts with label Motivation. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Motivation. Show all posts

Monday, September 21, 2026

Quinoa Salad

Greetings all! 

As I was making a grocery list for my next store run, I was also looking for recipe inspiration – and found this quinoa salad in my bookmarks! Then, I also remembered my friend MK's super easy quinoa salad – and voila, you now have 2 recipes! 

Photo: Joe Lingeman/Kitchn; Food Stylist: Brett Regot/Kitchn

MK Salad

  • Quinoa, cooked and cooled
  • Arugula
  • Beets
  • Red onion
  • Mushrooms
  • Feta cheese
  • Creamy Balsamic dressing 

The Kitchn Salad:

  • 1 1/2 cups quinoa, cooked and cooled
  • 1 large English cucumber, chopped into rough 1/2-inch pieces
  • 1 (12-ounce) jar roasted red peppers, drained and coarsely chopped
  • 1 cup pitted Kalamata olives, coarsely chopped
  • 1/2 cup fresh parsley leaves, coarsely chopped
  • 4 ounces garlic and herb goat cheese, crumbled
Dressing:

  • 3 tablespoons olive oil
  • 2 tablespoons red wine vinegar
  • 1/2 teaspoon dried oregano
  • 1/2 teaspoon kosher salt, plus more as needed
  • 1/4 teaspoon freshly ground black pepper 

Instructions:

Combine dressing ingredients in a large bowl and whisk. Add cucumber, roasted red peppers, Kalamata olives, and quinoa to the bowl and toss to combine. Garnish with fresh parsley and goat cheese. Serve at room temperature or chilled.

Bon Appetit! Let me know which version is your favorite!

Monday, September 14, 2026

How to Spend Less

Greetings all!

Do you want to be more intentional and thoughtful about your spending? 

If your answer is YES, try this lifehack from financial advisor Suze Orman.

Every time you are about to buy something, whether it costs $10 or $1,000, stop and ask yourself:

Is this a need or a want?

If It’s a Want
If you are really serious about reining in your spending, forego spending on wants. Or build in guardrails: I will spend only $X a week on wants. Either way, by stopping and identifying a potential purchase as a “want,” you are elevating it as a potential source of saving - either by forgoing the purchase entirely or by opting for a less expensive option.

If It’s a Need

Even with needs, you might be able to reduce your spending. The less expensive brand - whether it be food or clothing - meets your needs and can save you money. And it’s even more in play for huge expenses, such as buying a car or a home (or the place you decide to rent). A car to get to work is a need. As is shelter. But what you choose to spend on both is up to you. Asking yourself if you might be able to fulfill the need and spend 10%, 15%, or 20% less can transform your finances.

I really like how simple this Need vs Want test is to help us pay more attention to how and when we choose to spend money.

Monday, August 24, 2026

Thought of the week – Your Time Is Thin

 

“Whether you have ten years left or a hundred years left, your life is an incredibly brief moment. We know for sure you won’t be here in a century.

But today? Today you are in the Great Game. And this moment you have right now might as well be the most important moment in the universe. Your time is thin. Go out and live fully now.” 

~ James Clear, https://jamesclear.com/3-2-1/july-23-2026

Image: https://deepai.org/

Monday, August 10, 2026

It’s Good to Do Nothing

Greetings all! 

Today, I had an amazing meditation session! In fact, it was so good that I listened to it three times in a row. And then one more time so I could transcribe it for you! 

“It’s good to do nothing. In meditation, you sit around and you do nothing, and at the same time, this doing nothing is an exploration that makes your life better.

 

And it all happens at once: the doing nothing, the exploring, and the making your life better. Somehow doing nothing improves everything.  

You arrive here, in this present moment, and you let yourself be here. You let everything be here - the sounds happening outside you, and these feelings and thoughts and sensations happening inside you. 

You just sit right here, in the middle of your life, and you do nothing and it’s good for you. 

So this sitting here, doing nothing, is absolutely the essence of meditation. And sometimes it’s easy, and sometimes it’s hard because our mind can be skittering around like a squirrel on the linoleum floor.  And if this is you today, you are in good company. [Side note: that made me laugh.]

And the move is to give your skittery mind something to do, something of your own choosing. You can choose to focus on your breath or on a sound outside. You choose something and then you do your best to stay with it. 

And you are just sitting here, being here, in this moment, sinking in, not trying to change anything or upgrade your situation. 

And you keep doing not much of anything. 

Sometimes subtle resistance can come up - It’s hard doing nothing, I need to do something. And that is fine. You can try to notice any impulses like that with some humor, maybe even compassion. And then you go back to doing nothing. And you are trusting as you do this, that something deep down is getting calmed, down in the depths, ever if the surface still feels jumpy. 

Nowhere to go, nothing to do. All these sounds and sensations are happening all on their own.  

Part of what’s good about doing nothing is this clearing out that can happen. It’s a bit like the noise of our busyness, all this constant pushing and pulling and scheming, it starts to cool out, just a bit. And as it does, then it can be this very simple feeling of being just a little more available to life. Like you have a little more space. It was just waiting here, all along. All you had to do was nothing.” 

I have to confess: I did 'upgrade my situation' before I started for a more relaxing experience - I wore toe separators, put a strawberry mask on my face, and had my legs up the wall. And after 3 rounds of doing nothing, I felt amazing and refreshed!

What did you think? Drop me a line! Or actually, don’t - go sit and do nothing! 

Sources: CALM

Monday, August 3, 2026

Unbelievable: Matthew McConaughey in My Inbox

  
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un·be·liev·a·ble
​adjective
Not able to be believed. Unlikely to be true. Extraordinary.

What a foolish word. A rude and disrespectful word.

We think we use it to flatter, to give credit. What an unbelievable play. What an unbelievable film. What an unbelievable act of courage. What an unbelievable sunset. What an unbelievable break.

But why would we define things that are incredible and awesome - things that actually make us believe more - with a word that means the opposite? Something spectacular, phenomenal, outstanding, most excellent, is most definitely not unbelievable.

Awe-inspiring? Magnificent? Prodigious? Extraordinary? Yes. It just happened. You just witnessed it. You did it. Believe it.

Unbelievable? Quite the opposite. Give incredible more credit.

A man flies a suicide jet into the World Trade Center. A coronavirus comes. Hurricanes ravage. Fires burn. Enron’s a scam. The government lies to us. Our best friend lies to us. We lie to ourselves. Our fiancée says “I do.” We won an Oscar. Our child says his first words. One day we find a cure for cancer. One day we die in peace.

Unbelievable? No.
It happened. You witnessed it. You lived it. Believe it.

Acknowledge the existence of greatness and phenoms, excellence and extraordinaries - pleasures and pains. Recognize them as real entities, both beautiful and horrible, tragic and heaven-sent. Be not naïve to awe-inspiring feats of good or good fortune, nor gullible to mankind’s capacity for evil. Be not blind to the credence of natural beauty or disaster.

Nothing God or Mother Nature does is unbelievable. And if there’s one thing you can depend on people being - it’s people.

So why am I bothered by the usage of this word? Because we are not only saying it, we are also living it. What I really think this comes down to is us - each of us - individually. Unbelievable also puts constraints on what we believe we can reach AND it stops us from enjoying our success and ease.

First, the constraints we put on ourselves, the limits we assume about our potential, those are man-made.

Who the hell do we think we are putting ceilings over ourselves? We’re barely tapping into eleven percent.

Take the Icarus story. We think the wax on our wings is melting because we’re flying too close to the sun. Most of the time, there’s still ice and snow on the ground. It’s not even close to hot enough to melt the wax. We’ve got so much farther to fly than we give ourselves credit for.

It’s arrogant for us mortals to put a roof overhead and say, That’s as good as it can get. That’s as much as I can succeed. That’s as much as I can love. That’s as sad as I can be. That’s as happy as I can be. No more.

Secondly, we don’t know how to enjoy success or ease, even the five-star treatment. I struggled with a non-deserving complex for years. If things were going too well, I’d get anxious, masochistic, judgmental. I’d interrupt the flow with a faceplant instead of being cool - enjoying the grapes and palm fronds.

What I know now is this: there’s no need to make it hard on ourselves when it’s going well. It’ll get hard soon enough.

So take the roof off. Say, No - this isn’t even close to as good as it can get. Trust that we have far more capacity than we allow ourselves to believe. Putting a ceiling on ourselves isn’t humility. It’s arrogance.

And learn the art of running downhill. Don’t trip yourself while things are going well. That mountain you want to climb? It’s just around the corner. Don’t invent drama. It’ll come on its own.

Unbelievable happens all the time. Sometimes it’s divine. Sometimes it’s a loogie in the face. Don’t deny it. Depend on it. Expect it. Believe it. Enjoy it.

​REASON

​Here's a study a lot of people call unbelievable. When in fact, the conclusion of it is that belief is what makes it true.

Harvard psychologist and researcher Ellen Langer ran the famous counterclockwise study. In 1979, she took elderly people to a retreat designed to make them feel it was 1959. They listened to songs Perry Como and Jack Benny from the 50s, watched Ed Sullivan on black-and-white television, discussed 'current' events and even dressed like it was 1959.

By the end of the week, their physical health reflected the psychological reversal of time: They showed improved flexibility, memory, hearing, posture, cognitive ability and wellbeing. They even looked younger than before the retreat according to people who knew them.

They believed it.

Monday, June 15, 2026

Dear Anxiety….

Greetings all! 

If you check in with yourself right now, do you feel anxious? So many people have constant background anxiety. But what if anxiety is trying to do you a favor? 

Here are some CALM thoughts on anxiety:

"It’s easy to think of anxiety as the #1 enemy, but what if, instead, you thought of it like an alert system letting you know something needs your attention?

Acknowledging and reframing your experience of anxiety often helps you slow it down and regain control.

When anxiety feels like a runaway train, pull the brakes with these three simple phrases:

💙“Anxiety is trying to keep me safe”

💙“I can listen to the message of my body”

💙“I’m here now”

Remember: Sometimes, anxiety can be an important (and even helpful) experience.

Reflect: What message might your anxiety be trying to share with you right now?

Reframe: 'I hate feeling anxious.' -> 'I can take the lesson from anxiety and let it go'."

Breathe and have a great week!

Monday, June 8, 2026

Time Confetti

Greetings all! 

I recently came across the term “Time Confetti” – and I thought how cute and envisioned something pink and sparkly! Wrong! 

Karen Kwong, an executive and leadership coach, aptly describes time confetti as “tiny chunks of time here and there, in the form of minutes and seconds, lost to non-productive multi-tasking,” all in pursuit of feeling more productive. My readers know how I feel about multi-tasking: “I was not created a Swiss Army knife to multitask like this!” 

Here is some food for thought: data shows that an average desk worker changes desktop applications every six minutes. What meaningful tasks can you really accomplish in six minutes?

The term 'time confetti' was actually coined by author Brigid Shulte to describe using free time to do little bits of seemingly inconsequential tasks. 

In her book “Overwhelmed: Work, Love, and Play When No One Has the Time,” Brigid writes, "As work weeks get longer and leisure time shrinks, people are becoming sicker, more distracted, absent, unproductive, and less innovative.” 

How true – and sad! - about shrinking leisure time! You might feel you are getting more done, then you use those time pockets to find and do more work, and voila - interruptions now become your new normal. 

For example, if you have a free hour, would you relax guilt-free with a cup of tea and a good book or would you feel the need to do something productive and clear some of your to-dos? 

Time confetti might manifest in: 

·        Inability to relax during break times

·        Always feeling switched on

·        Constantly rushing from one thing to the next

·        Decreased ability to focus

·        Anxiety when you’re not “busy”

·        Stronger tendency towards unproductive multitasking

·        Feeling like you never have enough time

o   This is actually known as 'time poverty' or 'time famine' and was researched by Leslie Perlow in 1999 

If you need to feel busy at all times and/or are anxious and dissatisfied when you are not, you might be experiencing time confetti. When you try to do “everything, all at once, all the time,”  then you are never in the present here and now, and your brain does not rest. 

To fight time confetti, you can be more intentional and honest about your use of time, block time for uninterrupted work, schedule intentional breaks, protect your leisure time, and learn to say NO. Do not mistake movement for achievement. 

Rest/leisure is not a luxury, it is a necessity. We should not feel that we need to be productive 24/7. 

Now – how about that cup of tea and a book? 

Sources:

Monday, May 18, 2026

Thought of the week – Be ‘Selectively Ignorant’

 

“Be ’selectively ignorant.’

Ignore topics that drain your attention.

Unfollow people that drain your energy.

Abandon projects that drain your time.

Do not keep up with it all. The more selectively ignorant you become, the more broadly knowledgeable you can be.”

Sources:

Monday, March 23, 2026

Thought of the week – Find what grips your soul

“You must cultivate activities that you love. You must discover work that you do, not for its utility, but for itself, whether it succeeds or not, whether you are praised for it or not, whether you are loved and rewarded for it or not, whether people know about it and are grateful to you for it or not. How many activities can you count in your life that you engage in simply because they delight you and grip your soul? Find them out, cultivate them, for they are your passport to freedom and to love.”

~ Anthony de Mello, as seen on James Clear’s site, https://jamesclear.com/3-2-1/november-9-2023

Sunday, March 8, 2026

March 8 – International Women’s Day

 Image: https://x.com/Sheri_Fink/status/1368961672652619781

“And one day she discovered that she was fierce, and strong, and full of fire, and that not even she could hold herself back because her passion burned brighter than her fears.”

~ Mark Anthony

Monday, February 16, 2026

Little Pockets of Time in the Kitchen

Greetings all! 

This weekend, a friend of mine and I were chatting about what we do to keep our homes tidy. I shared the “lazy” cleaning strategy that I read about a while back and since then implemented quite successfully. This is where “done” is better than “perfect” - and by the way, this works in so many areas of our life!

I then dug out an email from Chef Joel from Homemade, in which he shared his “5-minute rule” to save time in the kitchen: 

"This might seem basic, and maybe it’s obvious to you, but you can save a ton of time in the kitchen by cleaning as you go. I really think this is something everyone knows… but that very few home cooks actually do. You get swept up in the whisking over here, then the pouring over there, then, “Oh no, the butter’s browning!” at the stove. Before you know it, you have a trail on your countertops that looks like a tornado came through. 


Image: https://deepai.org/

Here’s my timesaving trick: Find the pockets in the recipe to clean.

Before you start cooking, do a quick scan through the recipe steps for anything that takes longer than 5 minutes to cook (hence the “5-Minute Rule”).

When something takes less than 5 minutes to cook (like frying an egg, sautéing some onions, or boiling small potatoes, etc.), I want my full attention on what's happening in the pan.

When something takes more than 5 minutes to cook, instead of picking up your phone or standing around and waiting, start cleaning. This means putting jars of spices back where they belong, wrapping up pieces of meat that you aren't using, and maybe even doing a quick load of dishes.

We know this is super obvious, but it is the #1 reason why people are slowed down in the kitchen. Find those little pockets of time and make them count.” 

What did you think? Drop me a line and tell me what your timesaver tips are!

Monday, January 19, 2026

Thought of the week – The moment in front of you right now is a good one. Make the most of it!

“Whatever age you are today, your future self would love to be it.

Most people do not consider 65 to be a young age, but when you're 75 you'd love to rewind to 65 and regain those years. Few people would describe 35 as your youth, but in your mid-50s your mid-30s will seem like the ‘young you.’

Today is a great opportunity, no matter your age. Looking back in a few years, today will seem like the time when you were young and full of potential or the moment when you could have started early or the turning point when you made a choice that benefited your future.

The moment in front of you right now is a good one. Make the most of it.”

 ~ James Clear, https://jamesclear.com/3-2-1/september-22-2022 

Monday, January 12, 2026

Understanding Your Time Management Style

Greetings all! 

Do you know your time management style? Are you Calm and Confident? Or Frantic and Confused? 

According to author Kevin Kruse, you need to be clear on your Priorities (WHAT you should be doing) and Planning (HOW you can effectively get it done). He identifies these 4 styles: 

1) Frantic & Confused – this indicates ineffectiveness in both Priorities and Planning. You are uncertain as to what you should be working on and don’t have a system for getting things done.

2) Spinning Your Wheels – this quadrant suggests that you have at least above average skills in organization, but are unclear as to which items deserve your attention the most. 

3) Distracted & Frustrated – while you are somewhat clear on what you need to accomplish, progress is slow and you are frequently working off-task.

4) Calm & Confident – this quadrant shows that you are clear on your priorities and consistently use good planning to get it done. You feel confident in your current level of effectiveness, but it’s likely you are always on the lookout for ways to become even more productive.

If you are curious, below are some questions to ponder. You can also take the test HERE. 

  • Each day I can feel time slipping away.
  • I have clearly defined goals and I review them frequently.
  • Each day, I know what my most important task is.
  • I say "no" to requests for my time if it doesn't support my goals.
  • I think about whether my tasks can be delegated or outsourced.
  • I try to batch similar tasks together on my calendar.
  • I work from my calendar more than my to-do list.
  • I quit working at a consistent time, whether there is more to do or not.
  • I don’t respond to calls, emails, text messages or social media when I’m working on a task.
  • I’m mindful of when I have the most energy and ability to concentrate.
  • I carry and use a notebook daily (paper or digital).
  • I don't procrastinate.

What did you think? Drop me a line! 

Source: https://kevinkruse.com/time/

Monday, January 5, 2026

Happiness Calendar: January-2026

Greetings all! 

This January, focus on what matters to you! 

If I had to choose only one thing to focus on, it would be to look for one small thing to appreciate each day (the idea from January 14). What about you? 

January 1 – Make a resolution that feels inspiring.

January 2 – Pause to connect with a stranger.

January 3 – Admit when you’re not sure of something.

January 4 – Appreciate the hardships you’ve avoided.

January 5 – Forgive yourself.

January 6 – Get out into nature.

January 7 – Are you prone to awe? Take the quiz (link below).

January 8 – Spend time with your loved ones.

January 9 – Try to let go of a grudge.

January 10 – Be playful.

January 11 – Talk to yourself the way a loving friend would.

January 12 – Acknowledge your mistakes.

January 13 – Read our best articles of 2025 (link below).

January 14 – Look for one small thing to appreciate.

January 15 – Notice how emotions show up in your body.

January 16 – Break a big goal down into smaller steps.

January 17 – Be an active, engaged listener.

January 18 – Take our Science of Happiness course (link below).

January 19 – Stand up for what’s right.

January 20 – Lend a hand.

January 21 – Cultivate small moments of love and care with others.

January 22 – Listen to our top podcast episodes of 2025 (link below).

January 23 – Remember your ancestors.

January 24 – Reflect on what matters to you.

January 25 – Say thank you.

January 26 – Think about the impact you want to have on others.

January 27 – Tune in to your sense of touch.

January 28 – Read a good book.

January 29 – Follow your conscience.

January 30 – Practice critical thinking.

January 31 – Plant a seed for a better future.

Drop me a line and have a great week! 

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Monday, December 29, 2025

Choosing Your Word for 2026

Greetings all!

How do you want to feel in the next year? Have you picked your word for 2026? 

It might have already revealed itself to you or it might simply “feel right.” Sometimes your word arrives as a quiet knowing, a sense of “yes, this is it,” even if you cannot explain why. But if you are still unsure, try this:

First, take a moment to reflect, reconnect with your intentions, and start awakening your energy. You do not need to know what 2026 will look like or how things will come together. All you need is a sense of how you want to feel in the year ahead. 

1. When you imagine yourself at the end of 2026, what do you hope feels different inside you?

2. Why does this feeling matter to you right now?

3. Imagine that you do feel this way in your everyday life. What does that look like? For example:

a. How do you begin your mornings?

b. How do you spend your time?

c. What small choices or rituals help you stay connected to this frequency? 

Next, think about what word captures the essence of the feeling you want to live in. This word becomes an anchor for the year ahead, a gentle reminder of who are becoming and what you are welcoming into your life. 

So what feeling do you want to grow into in 2026? Happy New Year!  

Sources:

Monday, December 22, 2025

It’s Always Okay to Say No

Greetings all!

How is your mental battery this holiday season? Are you feeling festive? Excited? Or overcommitted, drained, and burnt out? Remember you can always say NO!

I love this CALM message: “It’s not your job to make it perfect over the holidays. You’re not Santa Claus.” 

Here are playful and lighthearted ways to say no:

  • “My heart says yes, but my body says no.”
  • “I want to say yes but my mental health says no.”
  • “I’m spoken for that night, but let’s catch up soon!”
  • “I can’t make it this time but I look forward to seeing you after the holidays”
  •  “I’m sorry I can’t make it, but I hope you have a wonderful time!”
  •  “Sorry — I already have plans” (self-care is a valid plan, by the way)

-> Remember: You don’t have to be the life and soul of the party. You are not even expected to be *at* the party.

-> Reflect: When have you said 'yes' recently when you wanted to say 'no'? What is something you want to say 'no' to but do not feel like you can? Say 'no' to that thing this week.

-> Reframe: I’m obligated to go → I can decide how I spend my time.

Honor how you are feeling and prioritize self-care and your own needs. Have a great week!

Monday, November 24, 2025

You Don’t Have to Feel Grateful to Be Grateful

Greetings all! 

If you are in the United States right now, this is the Thanksgiving week. Are you feeling thankful? 

A friend of mine reached out and said, “My family is getting together but I honestly don’t want to join them.”  Being around family isn’t always easy. Ram Dass once said that “if you think you’re enlightened, you should try spending a week with your family”.

 

Here are some CALM thoughts for this week: 

“Gratitude feels hard sometimes. And that’s okay. When stress strikes, burnout bites, or depression looms, it’s not always helpful to force yourself to feel grateful. So take the pressure off.

Authentic gratitude only comes when you honor where you’re at anyway — even if that’s sad or mad or lonely.

So here’s permission to *not* feel grateful this week. Feel however you’re feeling. You can feel grateful next week, or next month. It’s all good.

-> Remember: Sometimes growth comes from the being, not the doing

-> Reflect: Who are you most grateful for? Tell them

-> Reframe: Just be grateful → Just feel however you're feeling” 

I hope you allow yourself to feel however you’re feeling! Have a great week! 

Monday, November 3, 2025

You Get to Choose What Grows in Your Field of Dreams

Greetings all! 

I loved the message in the November Oracle Forecast from Colette Baron-Reid: 

“Ever find yourself at a point where something just... isn’t working anymore? Like you've hit a wall, or a dead end, and you’re not sure what comes next?

That’s exactly the kind of energy we’re entering as November begins. But the good news is: the only way to go from here is up.

…The first card that came through was Rock Bottom, a powerful signal that something is ready to shift.

It’s flanked by Compass and Home, which tell us that November is about finding our center after a period of confusion or emotional exhaustion. It’s a month to gently ask ourselves where we’ve been pouring our energy, and whether it’s time to reorient toward something more meaningful.

Not everyone will be seeing the world through the same lens right now, and that’s okay. What matters is that you’re being honest with yourself. This is the month to come back to what’s true for you, to return to your inner sense of home, and to realign with what you want to plant going forward.
 
With Mercury Retrograde returning later this month, we’re being encouraged to slow down, reassess, and allow space for emotional integration. The astrology supports a pause. Think of it as an invitation to reflect on everything you’ve learned so far this year and to be open to how things might shift before the year ends.
 
Even if this month begins with a sense of heaviness or uncertainty, there’s still room for hope, creativity, and forward movement. You get to choose what you align with. You get to choose what grows in your field of dreams.”

What did you think? Drop me a line and remember to slow down and reflect on what you want to grow in your field of dreams!